How much love we have in our lives is a reflection of how much we love ourselves. This love is not limited to romantic love, although we tend to focus on that aspect of love, but every situation where we are valued, honored and respected. When our life experiences do not meet our expectations we tend to see ourselves as not lovable or worthy. It is easy, then, to start to feel sorry for ourselves because we do not get the responses that we want from others. This is the pity trap and it can lead us into a cycle of powerlessness and depression that can be very hard to come out of.
I have a friend who does not love himself and who depends on others to create the abundance and joy that he wants in his life. When they let him down, because he attracts people who don't have the ability to do that since they are a mirror of him, he feels like a failure. And then he feels sorry for himself and gets depressed and goes into the pity trap. When he is ready to accept responsibility for his reality by stepping into his power he will be able to create what he wants in his life. But he is having a difficult time getting out of the pity trap because as long as he continues to feel sorry for himself he will not be able to move forward.
The pity trap is the place we go when we feel helpless, powerless, unable to move forward and without support. The path into the trap is through our belief that we are powerless. The path out of the trap is to remember that every aspect of our reality is within our control and that we are powerful beyond measure. While we are in the pity trap we will attract more people and situations that will reflect our powerlessness. When we are in the pity trap we are not loving ourselves. The key to this understanding is to remember Universe supports us according to our beliefs and the energy that we are projecting. To change the situation new must change the energy that we are projecting.
We all have moments of self pity, where we feel that we are just unlucky and can't envision the promise of unconditional love, abundance, peace and joy for our lives. How long we stay in the pity trap is up to us because getting out of it requires that we see our situation for what it is, an illusion based on our fear and powerlessness. This week, if you are in a pity trap, reflect on how you arrived there. Are you living a manifestation of your fear? Which fear is it? Can you change your belief about it? Can you move out of pity and into power? When our reality is less than what we want feeling sorry for ourselves is a choice that we can take but a better choice is to remember our power and step into it.
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