Attracting Abundance or Allowing Abundance?

by Wendy Betterini -

One of the hardest aspects of manifestation to master is the state of allowing.

"Attracting abundance" usually refers to taking daily actions that draw more money and abundance to yourself. Things like focusing on abundance more than scarcity; visualizing; dismantling limiting beliefs, and so on - these are all examples of attracting abundance with the Law of Attraction.

Unfortunately, it doesn't always work that easily for everyone. That's because some people (a lot of people, actually) chronically block the abundance that would otherwise be flowing easily to them. 

We call this being "resistant" to abundance or just "blocking" abundance. 

For some people, this is enough. They don't really have any big blockages where abundance is concerned, so once they change their thoughts and start focusing on abundance deliberately, it flows easily to them.

A person in this state will see almost no progress in their outer life, despite visualizing, affirming, creating vision boards, and any other actions they take to attract abundance.

The actions they are taking aren't the problem - those are all good actions to take - but they aren't addressing the DEEPER issue; their chronic blocking or resisting the very abundance they are trying to attract.

Have you experienced this before?

You spend time on all kinds of exercises that are supposed to draw more abundance into your life, but they don't work for you. Or they may work a little bit, but not enough, or not consistently.

If so, you may want to give a little more attention to moving yourself into a state of "allowing".

What is "Allowing Abundance"?

"Allowing abundance" may sound vague and mysterious, but it's really just the opposite of blocking or resisting abundance.

A state of resistance feels tight, stressful, frustrating, irritating, desperate. A state of allowing feels relaxed, calm, open, harmonious, and joyous. It's the difference between ease and strain.

Have you ever tried to achieve a goal that just seemed SO HARD and you struggled with it for SO LONG that you finally just gave up out of sheer exhaustion?

More often than not, shortly after you gave up, something happened spontaneously - some forward movement, a little bit of progress - that renewed your desire to complete the goal after all.

That's a perfect example of resisting, and then allowing. You dropped the struggle, stopped trying to force it to happen, and when you relaxed, the results you wanted were able to show up. You stopped resisting them and started allowing them.

That doesn't mean you have to "give up" on attracting abundance! You can easily learn how to move into a state of allowing without taking the drastic step of giving up on your dreams and goals.

But you DO need to start changing your relationship to money and abundance.

What IS your relationship with money like, anyway?

When you think about money, how do you feel? Do you feel frustrated that you don't have enough or pressured as you try to pay a lot of expenses with not enough income? When you see a wealthy person, do you feel a wave of resentment or disgust rise up within you?

These are signs that not all is well in the relationship you have with money. Does that surprise you? Did you think you had a good relationship with money but you just needed more of it? Ah . . . it's quite eye-opening, isn't it?!

If you are truly in a state of allowing, every facet of your relationship with money is great. You enjoy money, you never fear not having enough, you appreciate every bit of abundance you receive and you appreciate other people who demonstrate great abundance too.

If you aren't yet at this stage with money, it's okay! It's not hard to get there but you'll need to put forth some consistent effort.

How to Start Allowing Abundance

The first thing to do is familiarize yourself with the feeling of resistance. Again, resistance feels tight, stressful, frustrating, irritating, desperate, pressured, restrictive . . . any negative feeling, really. When you notice that you feel that way regarding money, it's a huge red flag to DO something about it!

Take a few deep breaths, focus on something about your financial situation that makes you feel good, daydream about an exciting financial scenario - but the key is to make sure you are improving your FEELINGS about money.

That's the biggest reason why visualization, affirmations and vision boards don't work for many people; they go through the motions mentally and physically but they never change how they FEEL.

When you change how you feel, you easily slip into a state of allowing! Yes, it's that easy. 

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Trusting Your Inner Guidance

by Wendy Betterini -

When we begin to feel lost or confused about various aspects of our lives, our first instinct is to search for direction. We feel sure that the answers we need are out there somewhere, and finding them will help us to know the right way to turn.

While seeking advice and guidance from others can be helpful at times, it is not always the best way to help ourselves. Rather than relying on someone else to tell us our truth, we can instead choose to look within and find the answers inside ourselves.

Each of us has been given the gift of an inner adviser that will never steer us wrong.

This inner advisor is not pushy, however. He or she will not speak up unless we ask for help. When we finally open our hearts and minds to hear what our inner advisor has to say, the wisdom will begin to flow freely and our lives will begin to change for the better.

So, how do we tap this wealth of wisdom?

Is there a request form we need to fill out somewhere? No, it's even easier than that, thank goodness.

Following are tips to help you connect with your inner guidance and use it to create your best life:

1) Create a Harmonious Forum  

Our inner guidance flourishes in peaceful, quiet surroundings. If you've got a lot of noise and chaos around you, you won't be able to tap in and hear the wisdom waiting for you. Try to find a quiet place that you can relax in. 

You can also surround yourself with beauty by bringing in some fresh flowers, scented candles or incense, or even some soothing artwork. Whatever will help put you in a calm, peaceful mood. 

2) Turn Within  

If you're not a regular meditator, this can be tricky at first. You might wonder what the heck you're supposed to be turning "toward," or focusing on. The answer is simple: nothing. 

Focus on nothing. Simply close your eyes and turn your attention inward, to the silence within you. Random thoughts will probably keep popping in, but gently push them back out and return your attention to the silence. 

3) Listen for Wisdom  

If you've got a specific situation you're struggling with, this would be a good time to think about it. Try to do so without judgment, and without trying to come to any conclusions. Just ponder the issue and practice acceptance for what it is at this moment. Then ask yourself, "What would be the best course of action for me at this time?" 

Consider the possibilities before you, and think about how each one makes you feel. Most often, you will notice a difference between something that feels right, and something that feels wrong. 

4) Let the Solution Materialize  

If you don't receive any insights initially, put the issue aside for awhile. By going through this process, you've already tapped into your inner guidance and asked for help. Even if the answer doesn't appear immediately, it will eventually. And in my experience, it doesn't take long! 

Just make an effort to stay open to the answer when it arrives. It will usually arrive in a flash of inspiration or insight that makes you say, "Ah ha!" Or perhaps it will be more along the lines of a subtle gut feeling, where you just know that one particular course of action "feels" right. 

5) Act from the Heart  

Once you know what you need to do, act with confidence. Don't let worries or fears hold you back. Believe that your inner guidance knows what's best for you and move forward with courage. 

Remember that there are truly no right or wrong paths in life, only experiences that we can learn from. By at least examining your options and considering which path is right for you at this time, you are making a wiser decision than you would otherwise.

At all times, strive to be your own master.

There is nothing wrong with seeking knowledge and insight from others but you aren't bound to mindlessly follow where they lead, either. You have the ability to find your own way and decide what's best for you.

In your quest for knowledge, you will come across information that feels right to you and information that doesn't seem to make sense. Use discernment and understand that there are many truths. You just have to find yours.

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Inner Guidance Tips

by Wendy Betterini - 

When we begin to feel lost or confused about various aspects of our lives, our first instinct is to search for direction.

We feel sure that the answers we need are out there somewhere and finding them will help us to know the right way to turn.

While seeking advice and guidance from others can be helpful at times, it is not always the best way to help ourselves.

Rather than relying on someone else to tell us our truth, we can instead choose to look within and find the answers inside ourselves. Each of us has been given the gift of an inner advisor that will never steer us wrong.

This inner advisor is not pushy, however. He or she will not speak up unless we ask for help.

When we finally open our hearts and minds to hear what our inner advisor has to say, the wisdom will begin to flow freely and our lives will begin to change for the better.

How do we tap this wealth of wisdom?

Is there a request form we need to fill out somewhere?  

No, it's even easier than that, thank goodness. 

Following are tips to help you connect with your inner guidance and use it to create your best life:

INNER GUIDANCE TIPS

1) Create a Harmonious Forum 

Our inner guidance flourishes in peaceful, quiet surroundings. If you've got a lot of noise and chaos around you, you won't be able to tap in and hear the wisdom waiting for you.

Try to find a quiet place that you can relax in. You can also surround yourself with beauty by bringing in some fresh flowers, scented candles or incense, or even some soothing artwork. Whatever will help put you in a calm, peaceful mood.

2) Turn Within 

If you're not a regular meditator, this can be tricky at first. You might wonder what the heck you're supposed to be turning ">toward," or focusing on.

The answer is simple: nothing. Focus on nothing. Simply close your eyes and turn your attention inward, to the silence within you. Random thoughts will probably keep popping in, but gently push them back out and return your attention to the silence.

3) Listen for Wisdom 

If you've got a specific situation you're struggling with, this would be a good time to think about it. Try to do so without judgment and without trying to come to any conclusions.

Just ponder the issue and practice acceptance for what it is at this moment. Then ask yourself, "What would be the best course of action for me at this time?" Consider the possibilities before you and think about how each one makes you feel.

Most often, you will notice a difference between something that feels right, and something that feels wrong.

4) Let the Solution Materialize 

If you don't receive any insights initially, put the issue aside for awhile. By going through this process, you've already tapped into your inner guidance and asked for help.

Even if the answer doesn't appear immediately, it will eventually. And in my experience, it doesn't take long! Just make an effort to stay open to the answer when it arrives.

It will usually arrive in a flash of inspiration or insight that makes you say, "Ah ha!" Or perhaps it will be more along the lines of a subtle gut feeling, where you just know that one particular course of action "feels" right.

5) Act from the Heart 

Once you know what you need to do, act with confidence. Don't let worries or fears hold you back. Believe that your inner guidance knows what's best for you, and move forward with courage.

Remember that there are truly no right or wrong paths in life, only experiences that we can learn from. By at least examining your options and considering which path is right for you at this time, you are making a wiser decision than you would otherwise.

At all times, strive to be your own master. There is nothing wrong with seeking knowledge and insight from others but you aren't bound to mindlessly follow where they lead, either. You have the ability to find your own way and decide what's best for you.  

In your quest for knowledge, you will come across information that feels right to you and information that doesn't seem to make sense. Use discernment and understand that there are many truths. You just have to find yours.

wingsfortheheart.com