Dealing with Life's Slings and Arrows

by Cynthia Sue Larson -

Taking the Journey Within:

The saying "Wherever you go, there you are," has been very much on my mind this past week, after attending my 30th high school reunion.

Even though some people had weathered tremendous emotional, financial, physical and spiritual hardships over the years, they maintained such a positive view of life and what is possible that they are an inspiration to everyone who meets and knows them.

"The only journey is the one within."
--Rainer Maria Rilke

Somewhere along the way, these people have figured out that the outer situations in their lives could and would only ever improve when they improved themselves on the inside and their positive results spoke for themselves.

Gratefulness and Commitment

The attitude of gratefulness and commitment to strive toward challenging goals gives these people an inner beauty of tremendous radiance. Just looking at them, it became clear to me that surely the greatest way to stay young at heart and in body is by making the most of what we are and what we have, regardless what challenges we encounter along the way.

How positive are you when dealing with life's slings and arrows? 

To find out, you can listen to yourself and what you say to yourself when you encounter challenges, noting whether you take risks and face your fears or not. The amazing thing about our fears is that they reside within us, not outside of us. 

Time, Energy and Effort

This means that the time, energy and effort we invest in facing and releasing our inner fears is unquestionably the best investment we can possibly make. As world-renowned psychologist and father of self-actualization Abraham Maslow puts it:
"Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of progress and growth). Make the growth choice a dozen times a day."
Every great success story I have ever heard or seen has at its core a heroic individual who not only faces their fears head-on but also recognizes that even when the path forward is unclear and victory uncertain, that doesn't really matter... because every experience brings new knowledge and information and every situation is an opportunity to grow.

Spirit of a Winner

This is the spirit of a winner: a man or woman who focuses on what they have learned that they did not know before and what they are now able to say and do and be that they could not say and do and be before.

Trusting that what you need is now coming to you is the essential quality within you that allows you to face whatever next comes your way. 

No matter what happens next, you can learn and grow from each experience. As you learn to relax and release your fears and focus on what you most love, admire and appreciate in yourself and your world, life can become more and more beautiful and enjoyable.