The Power of the Pause

by Filip Van Houte -

Life goes fast. The speed at which the world is currently evolving is astonishing. The new digital age is bringing forth a lot of options and possibilities. There are endless new goals and activities to stimulate the mind.

Nowadays people seem to be too busy with being busy. We have to make an appointment to make an appointment. We want to control our control. We want to structure our structure.

In the past boredom was a problem. Now it’s not knowing what to choose.

But do we ever stop to enjoy the fruits of our labor? We have to be productive, right? Taking a break wastes time. We got to move forward. …. Or not?

A Tribute to the Pause and the Silence that Speaks so Loudly

There are essential qualities to the pause you might not know about. Maybe a pause is exactly what you need.

"Don’t just do something, stand there."

–Buddhist Saying 

Here are 7 unknown qualities of the pause.​

1. It cultivates meditation and reflection

Isn’t the pause the essence of meditation? Dealing with boredom and watching the thoughts arise that try to keep your mind occupied. The pause allows. It doesn’t judge. You become the observer. This allows you to see through your mental patterns. You gain insights from a different perspective.

The pause lets us face our deeper inner world. Our anxieties, impulses, gut feelings, dreams, passions, goals. It’s like a glass of muddy water. Once it’s still, the dust settles and things become clear.

Pausing withdraws us from the world outside and make us look inward. It throws us back on ourselves to clean out all the garbage and nonsense that is going on in your head. We develop a deeper understanding of ourselves and our habitual reactions to our thinking.

You break free from the conditioned addiction to thinking, planning and doing. We allow ourselves to be, let thoughts arise and float by without judging them.

"Meditation puts meaningful content into a pause."

–Rollo May 

2. It is vital for creativity

Pausing is the first cousin of creativity. It makes room and time for fresh ideas to arise. They were already in the background, but now they can come to the forefront. After a period of intense focus on something, you can set the thought free when you give it an open space.

Creativity comes not only out of our moments or hours or weeks of effort. It requires – and this is essential – the moments or hours or weeks of pause between the effort.

"The interval between events is not unimportant, just like you don’t hear melodies until you hear the interval between tones." –Alan Watts 

You had this before, right? You’ve been thinking about something for a long time and you have this sudden realization. It seems to come out of nowhere. But it was there all along, just under the surface, waiting uncover.

3. It is the prerequisite of wonder

A basic attitude in pausing is an openness to whatever happens. And this creates the opportunity to wonder. We can only marvel and wonder when we stop and take a break. 

Looking in the night sky at the stars, watch a beautiful sunset, experiencing your surroundings and possibilities. The pause creates a gap that fills up with new and fresh impressions.

We sacrifice the richness of wonder when we don’t stand still and look deeper.

4. It is necessary for any growth

Pausing often gets confused with doing nothing. But don’t muscles only grow when we rest? Isn’t that the essence of sleep? Refreshing, consolidating, healing, imagining … exactly what a pause allows.

It is a cycle of expansion and contraction. You need to spent energy to expand, but you need also need to recharge energy to build it up again.

Every growth process needs plateaus. Growth is never linear. When you climb a mountain you don’t immediately climb the next one. You sit down, enjoy the view and get a new perspective.

5. You get to the essence

A pause will silence the mind and silence will bring forth an opportunity to pause. We live in a loud society. There is so much communication, distraction and noise. It’s hard to stay focused in such an environment.

So sometimes you need to get away and figure out your essential needs. That happens when you take a movement to breathe and let it all sink in. And the less stimulation you have around you, the more you get down to the essence.

6. You get in touch with your intuition

Intuition is a non announced voice. It is an innate knowing that is absent of serious attachment to the knowing. Intuition does not compete like the ego does. The ego competes for you to listen to it.

Intuition doesn’t’ feel that need and it is quiet. Until we pause and silence our ego minds there is no way to get in touch with our intuition.

7. It reduces stress

People stress out by their overactive ‘flight-or-fight response’. That’s can be exhausting. We are in less physical danger than ever before, but our mind doesn’t make a difference between a real and a perceived threat.

Our mental preoccupations keep us engaged. In this digital age with more and more stimulation and distraction, we have to find ways to counter this. Pausing is a way to keep track of ourselves.

That is the power of the pause … the silence that speaks so loudly.

About Author: Filip van Houte is the creator of Tips for a Better Life. Writer, teacher, eternal student and alchemist of ideas. Loves to travel inside the mind and outside in the world. On a mission to discover the balance between activity and passivity, sensuality and spirituality, self-acceptance and self-development. Looking to create a strong, passionate community with meaningful relationships that helps us build a better version of ourselves.

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Allowing the Unknown

by Jamye Price -

Time is a beautiful gift on Earth. It supports your understanding and your evolution into the future. It provides a platform for desire to refine into form. 

Life evolves, devolves, resolves and triumphs through the grace of time’s flow. 

The linear Earth experience of time is valuable and will be experienced as such for years to come as you integrate the truth of physicality into the truth of the non-physical nature of Life. 

Time is merely a vehicle of manifestation refinement. Manifestation has a focal point because of time. The past, known as it is perceived; the future unknown. Are you at peace with the unknown?

As you master your thoughts and feelings, you are creating a flow of energy that works with you, assisting your creations. 

It is not that you must think and feel perfect thoughts and feelings each moment, it is that you no longer allow thoughts and feelings to rule you, to control your access to inner peace. 

As you are well with what is, even while you desire change, you are opening access to a future that was previously unavailable from a state of vibration that could not harmonize with it.

Relax Into the Unknown

Your peace, your acceptance, your courage to change gives rise to new vibration emanating from you and thereby available to harmonize with a new frequency, a new future. 

To access this new future, relax into the unknown and know that Life is supporting you into your improvement. Life wants you to thrive. You are Life.

As we sit to Blast Allowing the Unknown, we are embracing the past as the perfect catalyst to improvement. We are peaceful in the present, knowing this moment is a focal point for choice that creates the future. 

We are a friend to time, knowing it is within us as well as around us; harmonizing manifestation between the inner and outer at the perfect pace. 

We are so strong in our Love that it is only details that are unknown, for the heart knows its ability to create a future of Love. That is the future we are allowing into creation. Blast on!

Jamye Price is an energy healer, channel, teacher and student of life. She channels healing energies in the form of Light Language, which are ancient and universal languages that your heart and infinite mind speak fluently. Her passion is Ascension - bringing people to the understanding of the truth of who they are; cherished, powerful and brilliant Divine Humans, interconnected with All Life. She feels humbled and blessed to be able to experience people in the truth of their glory and to share her path and perspective of reconciling the old way of being human with Divine Human Being.

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How To Rescue Yourself From Obsessive Worrying

by Debbie Hampton -

Worrying has become a national pastime. Whether you're worrying about repaying your college loan, having job stability in an unstable economy or making sure your toddler hits all the developmental milestones at the right times, there's no shortage of material for mind sweat.

According to The Anxiety And Depression Association Of America, anxiety disorders are the most common mental diagnosis in the United States. They cost the country $42 billion a year, and go hand-in-hand with depression. 

People with an anxiety disorder are also three to five times more likely to go to the doctor and six times more likely to be hospitalized for a psychiatric illness.

Especially for those of us interested in wellness, it can almost feel tiring to be told the importance of "letting go," "relaxing" and "unwinding." 

While this advice is ultimately right, there's also good reason we might feel inclined to resist it. The simple reason? Biology: all of our brains are wired to worry.

Basically, the same brain circuits that make for super human intelligence in our frontal lobes (allowing decision making, problem solving, and planning) also produce worry. 

For your brain, the only difference between worrying and planning is the amount of emotional involvement and self-oriented processing in a specific part of the brain. Of course, we all know worrying is charged with more negative emotions.

But your brain's number one priority is keeping you alive, and it's evolved to do that very well. Sometimes, worrying is the body's response to danger, an evolutionary mechanism to keep you alive.

But you can take concrete steps to climb out of the worry trap. You have to learn to soothe and guide your thinking brain and calm it's fear circuit. 

Here are some ways to begin:

1. Cultivate greater awareness about your emotions.

The first step to decreasing worry is to recognize when you're doing it. Becoming aware of your emotional state as it occurs enlists your thinking frontal cortex and suppresses the fight or flight amygdala response. 

In the study Putting Feelings Into Words, when participants simply labeled an emotion, their brains calmed down.

2. Take a deep breath (ideally many of them).

Taking slow, deep breaths through your nose into your diaphragm with slow exhales turns down your nervous system and reduces your body's stress response. This advice is undoubtedly not the most original, but that doesn't mean it's not effective. 

Think of it this way: if your breathing and heart rate naturally speed up when you are under stress, you can choose to reverse your response — by breathing slowly. This will send your body the message "I am relaxed," and you will become more relaxed as a result. It's like magic, with science.

3. Don't look back or forward.

When you find your mind drifting into the past or future, come back to the present moment, right here right now — a practice known as mindfulness. 

In this moment, you are OK. Your thoughts are creating your sense of danger. Bringing your awareness back into the now calms the fearful amygdala in your brain and activates your thinking neural circuits. 

Studies show that with repetition, mindfulness practice can lead to long term, lasting reduction of anxiety and worrying.

4. Pay attention only to what you can control.

Your brain craves control and feels happier and calmer when it just feels more in control — even if it's just an illusion. 

Feeling in control can reduce anxiety, worrying, and even pain. So, avoid imagining the worst possible scenarios, and instead pay more attention to what is in your control, which modulates brain activity to reduce anxiety.

5. Make a decision, even if you don't really want to.

Simply making a decision about whatever it is that you're worrying invokes your thinking brain, increases dopamine levels, and shifts your brain's perceptual focus on the things that matter the most. 

Making a decision — any decision — also elevates your perceived control giving your confidence and mood a boost which helps you to take positive action.

6. Go for good enough.

Worrying is often triggered by imposing unrealistic or perfectionist expectations on yourself or others. 

Don't aim for being the perfect parent; just be a good one. Your kid doesn't have to get into an Ivy League college. They just need to go to college. 

You don't have to be model thin. You just want to be healthy.

The problem with worry arises when the brain anxiety-circuits activate too frequently and get stuck in the "on" position continually which triggers the body's fear response. This then activates the stress response — which starts a downward spiral ... making you a miserable mess. 

Rather than make yourself more stressed out by worrying-about-worrying, think of worry as your brain just doing its job. You just don't want it to get too enthusiastic.

About Author: Debbie Hampton recovered from decades of unhealthy thinking and depression, a suicide attempt, and resulting brain injury to become an educational and inspirational writer. On her website, The Best Brain Possible, Debbie shares how she rebuilt her brain and life to find joy and thrive. She wants you to know that you can do it too! Or you can quickly learn the steps to build a better you in her book Beat Depression and Anxiety by Changing Your Brain with simple practices easy to implement in your daily life. Improve your brain, improve your life. Get daily inspiration and information by joining Debbie on Facebook.

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Cultivating the Flow of Abundance

by Sharon Marquart -

Consciously open your heart, mind, mouth, your thoughts, words and actions to the flow of abundance. Observe yourself giving and receiving. 

Today let’s cultivate the flow of abundance. 

Use affirmations today that remind you that you live in the flow of abundance.

• “I live in the flow of abundance.” 
•  “I give and receive with ease.” 
•  “I live in the flow.”

Repeating affirmations does several things. 

• It creates new thought patterns in your mind. 
• It creates new energy patterns in your aura. 
• It creates new pathways in your brain that create hormones; chemicals that change the way you feel and the emotions you experience.

Remember that many of us live in what I call “default” programming. We go back to the ways we were programmed to experience life from childhood. 

When making a change, it is important to put forth extra effort in the beginning of the change so that the brain and chemistry of the body changes fully.

Open the Tap

I believe the Universe is the infinite supply of energy that is ever-expanding and in constant motion.

So when I open the tap by getting into the feeling of abundance – peace, love, joy, freedom, even asking for what I desire – there is no option for the Universe to respond with, “sorry you can’t have that, there is not enough, you have too much already, I’ll get to you later.”

When I use my mind to open the tap, to tune into the feeling of abundance, it is there energetically flooding every cell of my being. The Universe is actually doing what it is designed to do – EXPAND!

And when I keep the tap closed or at a slow drip because, “how can I feel peace when so many others don’t?” or “how can I have more, when so many others have nothing.?” I am actually taking myself out of the flow and shutting down the Divine creativity of the expanding Universe that WANTS to flow through me.

The choice is yours!

Live in the flow of abundance fully today.

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How to Be Optimistic — Even at Rock Bottom

by Debbie Hampton -

After a suicide attempt, I was left seriously brain injured and lost custody of my two sons, who moved to a different state with their father.

As part of my emotional recovery in the years that followed, I HAD to consciously look for the good around me because there wasn’t any readily apparent anymore. Often, I had to get out my magnifying glass to find some, but good was always still there.

I just had to notice it.

The sun warming my cheeks as I walked the dog on a chilly morning; the silkiness of the cat’s fur as I scratched her rumbling chin with her curled up on my lap; a really good tune playing on my iPod were the smallest of joys, but smile-worthy nonetheless.

They made me feel a heck of a lot better than focusing on all the bad stuff.

Your brain has a natural negativity bias which means it constantly looks for, learns from, and holds onto anything it considers a danger or loss more intensely than anything that's neutral or pleasant

There's a good reason for this. Our ancestors were much more likely to live long enough to pass on their genes to a new generation by remembering a deadly predator's territory than remembering a sunny napping spot.

Look for the good and you'll find it.

This tendency to notice and remember the bad is just your brain protecting you. But it means your brain is always on guard, scanning the environment for danger. Bad trumps good every time.

The media takes advantage of this fact by blasting catastrophic, panic-inducing stories at us all day. Being on alert all the time leaves us overwhelmed, stressed out, and anxious.

So, how do you find good, happiness, and joy when even your brain is against you? You have to intentionally look for, put emphasis on, and create good experiences.

Your brain doesn’t automatically recognize the good that is present in your life every day.

There’s no threat, no fear, nothing to make your brain take notice. (It doesn’t automatically note all the bad things that didn’t happen.)

Through a process called habituation, your brain filters out all the ho-hum things that don’t change, whether it’s the buzz of the refrigerator or the routine absence of disasters. While habituation is an efficient use of your neural resources, it causes you to miss a lot of the good.

By becoming mindful of the present moment, you can find the good that's already in your life and shift your perspective. Now, I'm not suggesting that you stick your head in the sand and deny the ugly stuff.

I'm telling you to give your attention and energy to the things that could yield a positive experience for you by finding good in your current setting, recent events, ongoing conditions, personal qualities, the past, and the lives of others.

Positive Momentum

You’re alive. You ate today. The sun is out. That trip to the beach with your friends last summer was epic. You ran this morning. You earned a college degree and scored that award at work last month.

These kinds of small, good things can help build positive momentum in your brain by allowing yourself to feel the glowing emotions and sensations that go with the thoughts.

Pleasant thoughts cause your brain to secrete good neurochemicals which means a happier, calmer you.

It’s important to follow through on any positive actions that occur to you along with the thoughts, like writing a note, making a phone call, or putting your hands on that award, to extend and internalize the good vibes.

Good things are all around you every minute of every day — you just have to start to notice them.

Even bad things often contain seeds of good experiences.

• What lessons did you learn? 
• Are you stronger for having had the experience? 
• What did you gain?

Sometimes, it's impossible to come up with anything good in the middle of a big mess. You might be in terrible pain, have suffered a tremendous loss, be buried deep in depression or in a total panic. That’s OK. That’s being human.

Have compassion for yourself, accept where you are, ride out the storm and look for the good when you can come up for air.

Noticing the good has become a way of life for me. 

It’s a choice, costs nothing, and I can do it anywhere at any time. 

Making a conscious effort to notice the good and internalizing it makes it easier for me to stay calm and positive, even in the middle of chaos.

Because neurons that fire together wire together, the practice of changing your focus and directing your attention to notice and internalize the good, actually changes the neuronal structure of your brain, through a process called neuroplasticity, helping to counter your brain's natural negativity bias and slant it in a more positive direction all the time.

Look for the good and you'll find it.

About Author: Debbie Hampton recovered from decades of unhealthy thinking and depression, a suicide attempt, and resulting brain injury to become an educational and inspirational writer. On her website, The Best Brain Possible, Debbie shares how she rebuilt her brain and life to find joy and thrive. She wants you to know that you can do it too! Or you can quickly learn the steps to build a better you in her book Beat Depression And Anxiety By Changing Your Brain with simple practices easy to implement in your daily life. Improve your brain, improve your life. Get daily inspiration and information by joining Debbie on Facebook.

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Letter to my Younger Self

by Charles Eisenstein -

Dear self. Your secret, lonely knowledge is true. Despite all you have been told, the world that has been offered to you as normal is anything but normal. It is a pale semblance of the intimacy, connection, authenticity, community, joy and grief that lie just beneath the surface of society’s habits and routines.

Dear self: You have a magnificent contribution to make to the more beautiful world your heart knows is possible. It may not make you famous, but you have an important gift, an indispensable gift, and it demands you to apply it to something you care about. Unless you do, you will feel like you aren’t really living your life. You will live the life someone pays you to live, caring about things you are paid to care about. You can make a different choice.

Dear self: Do not believe the cynical voice, masquerading as the realistic voice, that says that nothing much can change. That voice will call your dreams by many names: naïve, unrealistic, immature, and irresponsible. Trust your knowledge that the world can be different, can be better. You needn’t sell out and live a life complicit in maintaining the status quo.

Dear self: You carry a deep yearning to contribute to the healing of the world and fulfillment of its possibilities. This is your deepest desire, and if you abandon it you will feel like a ghost inhabiting the mere shell of a life. Instead, trust that desire and follow it toward whatever service it calls you to, however small and insignificant it might seem.

Dear self: The most reliable guide to choice is to follow whatever makes you feel happy and excited to get out of bed in the morning. Life is not supposed to be a grim slog of discipline and sacrifice. You practiced for such a life in school, tearing yourself out of bed for days of tedium, bribed with trivial rewards called grades, intimidated by artificial consequences, proceeding through a curriculum designed by faraway authorities, asking permission to use the toilet. It is time to undo those habits. Let your compass instead be joy, love, and whatever makes you feel alive.

Dear self: When you follow your passion and come fully alive, your choices will feel threatening to anyone who abides in the dominant story of normal. You will be reminding them of the path they didn’t follow, and awaken in them the suppressed yearning to devote their gifts to something beautiful. Rather than face that grief, they may suppress it – and suppress you as well.

Dear self: At a certain moment it will become necessary for you to go on a journey. It isn’t to escape forever. It is to find yourself outside of whomever your conditioning trained you to be. You must put yourself in a situation where you don’t know who you are anymore. This is called an initiation. Who you were becomes inoperative; then, who you will be can emerge.

Dear self: Powerful forces will attempt to make you conform to society’s normality. These will take the form of social pressure, parental pressure, and very likely, economic pressure. When you encounter them, please understand that they are giving you the opportunity to define yourself. When push comes to shove, who are you?

Dear self: The old maps do not apply in these times of transition. Even if you try to follow them, even if you accept their bribes and heed their threats, there is no guarantee you’ll reap the promised rewards. The university graduates washing dishes and the Ph.D.’s driving taxis attest to this. We are entering new territory. Trust your guidance. It is OK to make mistakes, because in uncharted territory, even the wrong path is part of finding the right path.

Dear self: On this path, you are sure to get lost. But you are held, watched, and guided by a vast organic intelligence. It will become visible when things fall apart – as surely they must, in the transition between worlds. You will stumble, only to find overlooked treasure beneath your feet. You’ll despair of finding the answer – and then the answer will find you. Breakdown clears the space for synchronicity, for help unimagined and unearned.

Dear self: None of this advice can be sustainably implemented by a heroic effort on your part. You need help. Seek out other people who reinforce your perception that a more beautiful world is possible and that life’s first priority is not security, but rather to give of your gifts, to play, to love and be loved, to learn, to explore. When those people (your tribe) are in crisis, you can hold them in the knowing of what you know. And they can do the same for you. No one can do this alone.

Earlier this year Erick Joseph filmed me in a short interview "for a younger audience." We talked about stuff I wished I'd known when I was 20. We also talked about yoga. Anyway, here is the short film he made from the interview. Above is the short essay to accompany it.

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If Not Now, When?

by Lynn Banis PhD -

Are you holding back on doing something you want to do? Do you keep saying to yourself and others "I will do it when ___ happens"? Or, how about, "There will never be a good time to do it"? 

If you are talking like this I wonder what is going on? 

Presumably it is something you want to do but have you challenged that? 

• Do you really want to do it? 
• How badly do you want to do it? 
• If all of the obstacles you perceive were out of the way would you do it right now? 
• Why? 
• Why not?

My guess is that if you really want to do it you would have answered yes to the question above. 

If you still had reservations after all the obstacles were cleared away then either you don't want it all that much or something else is getting in the way. Do some personal digging to figure out what that is.

EXPLORATION IS IN ORDER

If you really want to do this thing then exploration is in order. 

Write down the answers to the following questions. 

• Why do you want to do it? 
• What will you get or have once you do it? 
• What will the benefits be? 

Create a clear vision of what it will be like once you have accomplished this thing. 

• Imagine what you will be doing, what you will be saying, what you will be hearing, tasting and smelling. 
• Imagine who else will be there and what they will be doing. 
• Make that picture in your mind panoramic. 
• Be in the picture rather than looking at it. 
• Make it colorful and bright. 
• How is that for you? 
• Is it as real as you can imagine? 
• What could you do to make it even better?

Stay in the imagined picture and look back at the path you took to get there. 

• What did you do? 
• What were the steps you took to get there? 
• What did you have to give up along the way to get there? 
• How important was that to you? 
• What did you bring with you from the past that is now a part of your picture? 
• How important is that to you? 
• What got in your way? 
• How did you overcome those things?

Now step out of the imagined picture and look at what you have written down. 

• What are the trends and themes? 
• What is already real? 
• What has to happen to make the rest real? 
• What are the steps you will take to accomplish what you want?

By now you should have cleared the way to make this happen. What are you waiting for?

Lynn Banis PhD, MCC is known as America's High Performance Coach. She specializes in helping women. executives and entrepreneurs make the most of their opportunities and potential. Her years of working with small and large businesses has given her a depth of knowledge that is invaluable to her clients. You can reach her at discoverypointcoaching.com or at her email address listed on the site. Also check out Lynn's other businesses: Coach Academy International, a cutting edge coach training company; and Turnkey Coaching Solutions, a coaching program management and contract coach staffing company. Contact me now to get the support you need to make your dreams come true: lynn@discoverypointcoaching.com. I look forward to working with you.

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14 Things You Will Learn from People Who Drive You Crazy

by Ikechi Awazie -

Do you know that there are things we can learn from people who drive us nuts?

It is true that no one likes to be associated with annoying people who would step on toes and push us to the wall. Nevertheless, these kind of people cause changes in our lives. They make us to grow. So what lessons can we learn from annoying people? 

Here are 14 lessons you can learn from people who drive you nuts:

1. Responsibility 

You become accountable. They make you responsible for your actions. You understand that you might not change them or even try and make them your project (If you do, they will drain your strength) but you can take charge of every situation (be it an argument) and be calm. 

2. Perseverance 

You are tired of the nagging and complaining but as time goes on, if you don’t give up to your attacking emotions. You will learn to develop an absorber; a tough skin that won’t be cracked by any form of pressure. 

3. Confidence 

When you are able to solve the problems of these kind of people, you will boost your confidence. If you can answer their presupposed difficult question, then plans become stronger. 

4. Focus 

You will learn not to be distracted by the baggage of these annoying people. You will focus on what matters and sometimes you would have to work with them just to achieve your goals. That’s focus. 

5. Creativity 

Dealing with humans takes a lot of ingenuity. If you can master how to deal with conflicts and promote productivity in a company or business working with different personality sets, then you are most treasured. 

6. Humility 

Annoying people do make you appreciate your uniqueness. You come to thank your stars that you are not in their shoes. 

7. Curious 

You will see things from different angles. You will never assume or argue without considering all the facts. You will understand what they perceive of themselves and they will make you better understand yourself. 

8. Love 

If you embrace love and see with its lens, then you will try to figure what makes them tick. You might discover that you sometimes might be annoying so with empathy, you are able to feel and understand what it means to be annoying. 

9. Appreciation 

You will learn that there is nothing crazy about being pushed to the wall. Yep! you sometimes must express yourself and there is beauty in being You. 

10. Self Control 

As revealed in #1, two wrongs don’t make a right. Life sometimes does not have to be a sprint. It is not about who is right or wrong so you will have to understand that you don’t try to use annoyance and relate with an annoying person; that just brings more rage. 

11. Tolerance 

There is supposedly a threshold in every man; you might want to discover your threshold or know to what extent you can sustain being calm and in control because in time you might be in charge of annoying people and trust me, you will be tested and tried. 

12. Being Open Minded 

The most successful leaders are those that are very flexible. Rather than make rash decisions, they are more open and not so pushy. They understand that relationship takes time to build and foster so they will rather build a relationship than demand authority. 

13. Inspire 

You will learn to either inspire people to greatness and productivity or inspire them to be angry, worn out, spent and uncooperative. It is your choice. 

14. Hate 

How sad when annoying people get to you. You will despise them and wish that they were never born or you can choose #8.

 

It’s Your Turn

What lessons did annoying people teach you? Are there any strategies that you have used to deal with such kind of people?

About Author: Ikechi Awazie - His blog will give you personal development tips that will help make a difference in your life. You will also learn about people who are an inspiration to their generation. You can add him on Twitter and Google+.

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